Living with mumm is fun. She is good company and I like her very much as a person.
When she first moved in she was still drinking and just so difficult to talk to, so over the top and irrational and irritating. I feel bad saying it because I know she’d feel heaps guilty if she knew, because this goes back decades. I suffered with the same impatience and frustration with her that I did living with her as a teenager and onwards, reminiscent of my entries of 2003 on this very blog. So this was leading me to question the wisdom of this whole idea of her coming down and staying with me. Particularly because I’d kinda assumed she would quit drinking upon her arrival, right? To break the habit in a new environment, to take advantage of not having as many cues, etc. But she didn’t.. she drank the whole drive down from Cairns, and continued every night at my house. I didn’t want to push her, because that’s been proven to not be helpful, because I knew she was already experiencing shame about it, so I just waited till she was ready.
Then she went to an ATODS appointment and quit drinking that very day. That was a surprise to her too, you know, she went in for the session and the nurse or doctor or whoever it was just assumed she’d be quitting that very day.
“Wait, what?” she said. “You want me to start today?”
“Are you telling me you’re not ready to start today?”
“Well, no, I mean I guess I could…”
Now it’s been three weeks, and I am so proud of her and happy. She hasn’t drunk a drop since that day. We went out to Restaurant Two to celebrate the two week mark, and she even had to wait at the bar, fielding waitstaff asking her if she’d like wine or cocktails, while I parked the car.
And, of course, we’re getting along perfectly. I’m 100% sure we wouldn’t be if she were drinking. I wonder if she knows what a huge difference it makes.
I wonder how she’ll go when she moves back to Cairns, with Trina down the road insisting and insisting she continue to join her on the ever downward spiral into alcoholic avoidance forevermore. It is horrible. I’d rather mumm live with me forever.